How is Marriage Life !!!

"How is Marriage Life?",  I have been hearing these words from sms, phones, mails, friends, relatives.. etc..! No matter what, i am fed up with in replying them. I think its common way of asking some one after he or she getting married. Any differences you found before marriage and after marriage..? Interesting questions.. Lot of data which we can give to Bachelors..  :)

 

According to me, at times i was thinking to answer them in a meaningful manner but end up in saying "Fine", "Good".. then replies from them as Just Fine? Just God? No difference aah..? you were in the same state even before marriage Right? Well.. Then i was re framing my answers saying is I am very happy, its New Life.. New Responsibilities.. New Experience..
As both groom and bride comes from different background in terms of habits, family environment, different tastes.. which leads to better understanding of each other. At initial days.. there will be a magical drama.. like Silly Silly fights, complaints.. misunderstandings..overwhelmed love.. ego.. all.. at bottom line to reach the better understanding of each other. So Lately Couples.. Enjoy and cherish each moment :)

Infy ...

I think in Year 2005..  About to finish final year MCA, Got call letter from Infosys to attend the interview (Because My Academic Background record is good :-) ), As i was fresher i had to clear the Written test then GD followed by HR Round. I was so Excited when i saw the call letter as if i got Offer letter for getting to Infosys.

I had a kind of Dream that if at all iam into IT industry.. "I will work in world Top companies like Microsoft, IBM, Google and Indian Top companies like Infosys, Satyam, TCS, Wipro." I had a week time to attend the interview. Hence I checked with couple of friends for Interview pattern. Surfed on Net, browse the Fresherworld.com for pattern and for mathematics Bought the Shakuntala Devi's Ar-thematic Book  Fought with Book and All set to write the Exam.

I think its Saturday, Written Test held at Begumpet some XYZ school. Lot of process happen for pre-written test. Entire Academic Score card i had entered, calculated my percentages.. in their forms. At last First Round completed. Result going to be announced in another 30 mins. I have waited. waited at Result Chart.. Results Announced My Name was not listed.. Felt Upset for some time and boost up myself I have few more companies in my Dream List. Convinced my self saying If not Indian Top company, i may get into World Top Company.  Back to home.. Went to a Movie with friends ;)

After couple of days.. Got a call from IBM..  Cleared all the rounds and Got Offer into IBM in a week span. Almost four and half years tenure in IBM with work experience in Chennai, Bangalore and Hyderabad locations I was Happy that what i was doing. But Life is all about moving on for betterment. Looking for Change.. Last month got a Call letter from Infosys (This time for Laterals ;) ) and i was succeeded.  Got the Offer from Infosys. Two weeks back Joined in Infosys.

When it comes to work, as i was in IBM Environment it takes couple of months to adjust with Infy Environment. in these fifteen days with Infy.. I remember my school days .. Every day 7 periods in class. School Bus...Morning Bell, Lunch Bell.. Evening Bell...Play Ground... etc..  

I am waking up at 6:00 am Morning and finishing formalities then catch the Infy(school) Bus by 7:00 am and reach office by 08:00 am and swipe the Card for IN-Time (Like First Period in schools).. Lunch at Food court ( It's Gorgeous find the snap down).. Evening Games.. Swipe Out.. Catch the Bus again between 05:30 pm to 06:30 pm.. Reach home by between 07:00 pm to 09:30 pm. Day Khallaas. This is what happening every day in my Life ;) I just had a question whether Infy Changed My Life or i changed my lifestyle by opting Infy.

(This is the New food Court of Infosys Campus, as i every day see some Jaatara in it)

WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN’T WE?

WHEN A LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN’T WE?
This is a true story that happened in Japan.

In order to renovate the house,

someone in Japan breaks open the wall.

Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls.

When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there

because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet.

He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail,

it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was! first built.

What happened?

The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years!

In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind-boggling.

Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years! without moving a single step–since its foot was nailed!

So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating.

Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth.

Ah! He was stunned and touched deeply.

For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years. ;

Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner.

Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can’t.

 never abandon your loved ones

Never Say U R Busy When They Really Need You..

You May Have The Entire World At Your Feet.

But You Might Be The Only World To Them.

A Moment of negligence might break the very heart which loves you thru all odds..

Before you say something just remember. It takes a moment to Break but an entire life to make…
To Live Use Heart And to Survive use Brains.

Succesful Relationships !!!

A GOOD ONE 4 those who are married or are going to get married.. Here we go..!

 

During one of seminars, a woman asked a common question.

She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,

"It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a

completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage! , you wi ll notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage..

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

"No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE.

No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.

And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice" 

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Fight for resource ;)

In a company in one account the PM (project manager) was working out of Thiruvananthapuram and the DM (Delivery manager) was in Mumbai. One day they had a conf call and the PM and DM dialed in early. While waiting for others to join the DM decided to have a casual talk with the PM.
DM: “Hey Mr. PM...!!!  How r u...??? What are the weekend plans...???”
PM: “Not much.”
Complete silence for some seconds
Suddenly PM said “Pazhassi Raja is getting released today.” ( Pazhassi Raja  is a Malayalam big budget movie starring Mammootty )
DM: “Pazhassi Raja...???”
DM ( now in an irritated tone ): “How come he got released...???”
PM is dumbstruck...!!!
DM ( angrily on phone ): “From which team did he get released. I didn’t get any mail regarding this...!!! “
DM: “Don’t release him now. Please hold on for another week. I will let you know once I have consulted other PMs. If any of them need a resource we can use him.”
The PM was laughing. The conf call soon started as everyone joined the call…
Later, the DM sent out a mail to all PMs.
Dear PMs,
We have one resource, Pazhassi Raja being released today. If anyone wants a resource, please let me know.
One Mallu PM replied.
Dear DM,
“Angel John” (Mohan Lal’s next film ) will also get released soon. Do we need to hold him too?
ALL, except DM, were laughing their hearts out…